Want acceptance at your fingertips?
Have you ever heard yourself or someone says, “oh I let that go, I accepted that..” and then you keep talking about it for weeks on end? Or have you been in that situation where someone did something or said something, and for the life of you, it just wouldn’t clear out of your mind, and just stuck in your head?
We’re going to tackle the most talked about spiritual practice on planet earth. I’m talking about accepting what is.
To master this, an understanding of how to look at a situation is essential. In 5 steps, let me show you some mind tools to improve your odds and provide you with a simple guideline so you don’t get caught in the loop of being one of those people that “try to accept and let go”- but actually don’t.
Here are the 5 simple steps.
1) Become aware of exactly where you are. Where am I right now. Who is here? What am I experiencing? What am I feeling? What am I doing? What is my mind focusing on? Let me become aware and take a full inventory of right here, right now.
2) Breathe into unpleasantness. Breathe into the rage, anger, hopelessness, aloneness, despair, frustrations and observe yourself just as an expression, a vehicle of these thoughts and emotions. Really feel and focus on your breath and the movement of your chest and the feeling of the energy within and around you.
3) Hypersensitize your awareness. As you are able to sense and feel yourself in this way, allow your system to come to a new level of ease, and begin to observe, look, touch, smell, listen, to the information, the voices, the scents, and allow yourself to be in this space and time as much as you can humanly be here. Have yourself be hypersensitive the what’s around you. You will find yourself soften, and become more centered.
4) Get curious. Ask, “What’s really going on?” By accessing curiosity in a relatively relaxed state, you can invite in an appropriate answer or solution to your current situation. Be patient as the answers will hit you like a brick wall if you are open to it.
5) Find Benefits. Ask, “What are the benefits to my distress right now?.” If you see more downsides than upsides, you will be resentful and feel like a victim. It’s important right now to empower yourself with upsides until you feel an inner sense of balance and release that what you are experiencing is supposed to be any different. That’s acceptance. Once you have that, you have the energy to move forward without the attachments to previous challenges and you can move forward in a connected, grateful state.
So remember 1) Acknowledge, 2) Breathe, 3) Hypersensitize, 4) Get curious and 5) Find benefits
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Dr. Steve
P.S. if you are still talking about an issue days later, you haven’t yet accepted and let it go (see step 5)
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