How to access more love
How many times have you been guarded, defensive and protected around others? Want to know how to access more love? I’ll show you one major step to make it happen.
Part of the problem is that you think love comes and goes.
Let’s reframe that and start with a different assumption that love actually doesn’t go anywhere. It’s there 24/7- 7 days a week.
With that in mind, if love is there indefinitely, what then happens to wall us off from it? What gets in the way of us experiencing love?
Is it the bodymind which is guarded and protected, thowing up the armour so you can’t feel it or express it?
I believe it is.
The number one way on how to access more love is to dissolve the armour. And the armor first starts within the body frame.
Did you know that your body responds to the stresses of life 500 milliseconds before your brain has a chance to interpret it.
So the protective armouring of our body often is created before you have a chance to think about it or respond to anything.
Distortions in your body, especially spinal distortions, limit the balanced perspective of the mind and therefore, accessing love is an uphill battle.
Let’s take a look at one tool that helps to start to dissolve the armour and begin to experience more love.
Death Awareness
Spiritual teachings have reinforced a lifetime practice that can shift perspective in a moment. You don’t need to try to sit for 20 minutes and relax, nor believe in any type of voodoo.
Death awareness cuts to the core of reality.
It’s the biggest bang for your time buck.
Death awareness brings to awareness that this day could be your last, this hour could be your last or this interaction with your child could be your last.
It is this hyperacuity for time that will force you to let go of meaningelss and useless guards and open up to your fullest expression in the moment.
My wife hates, especially if she’s having a rough morning, that I say, “hope to see you later,” and she knows exactly what i mean. It stops us both in our tracks. It says, let’s not take this moment for granted. Let’s return to love and leave any other challenges aside because the reality is, they are meaningless when you consider the vulnerability to life.
So death awareness is my number one strategy to quickly access love in a day to day basis. Try walking through an entire day thinking, “this could be my last shower,” “this could be my last grocery shopping,” or “this could be my last night.” The reality is, it could be. And that has your armour soften and the accessibility to love open up.
Best foot forward,
Dr. Steve
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